I am probably going to catch a little heat for this, but I just wanted to get something out there. This morning after dropping my 5th grader off at school I ran to Target to grab a few things with my 2 yr old and my 6 mo old (who is almost 9lbs and still mistaken for a brand new guy daily).
While I shop solo with the two littles I usually have the 2 yr old in the cart while I carry my tiny one. I don’t do the infant car seat, my babies ride in a convertible car seat that stays in the car & because of baby’s breathing stuff before his heart surgery he doesn’t seem to really enjoy being wrapped in a baby carrier. Ok so here it goes, once I found all of our items and made my way to the check out I began to load them up on the belt. A woman, who honestly seemed to come out of no where approached me and said “oh let me take your baby, I can just hold him while you check out.” You know what first came to my mind? “Oh, no. Stranger danger! This is what I have read about. Those people who try to snatch your kids.” I politely declined, I know I might appear to be a hot mess but I am more luke warm, and have had lots of one handed practice. 😉 She stood close and talked to me about how hard it is to shop with two babies, and then again said “here, let me just take him for you.” I again declined but this time noticed others watching, like all of the articles floating around were freaking everyone out just a tad. I just want to say, I hate that this is what our minds have to go to. I hate that honest people can be trying to help but so many have their back up. When I walked away I walked over to the garbage to try and open something for my two year old, the lady again asked if she could help and I made some crack about being a good juggler, smiled and went on my way. When I got to my car and opened the back to start & load my bags a woman and her adult daughter approached me and said “oh let us help you, we can hold your baby while you load your things, props to shopping solo with two babies!” These people were honestly trying to lend a hand, trying to help where they could & I was grateful for the offers. As I drove home I started to think what I could have turned this into. I could have easily jumped online and uploaded a status warning others about my encounter, dragging more fear into our world, but what does that help? We as parents know to be cautions, we already know this. Reading post after post about fearful things do not help us, they do not help, I honestly think they add negativity into our lives. We have the news and a million different fear based things flying at us daily. I really don’t think adding to the fear is going to do anyone any good. I could have made this big but really all I know is, these women tried to lend a hand. I would not love labeling them as a baby snatcher when the only thing I can say for certain is, they were trying to help me out.